Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. A few weeks ago, I started talking to what I thought to be a really cool guy online. In fact that is how we matched; the last time he was in the area.
The chat between us was going really well. I expressed some annoyance at him giving me mixed signals ie flitting between saying he wants to date me, to maybe we should just be friends, then back to saying he wants to date me, then again just friends etc. I unmatched him on the dating site to be concurrent with this something I now regret!
I missed him though; we had clicked well I felt, and I did feel it would have been good if we had just met up or at least spoken on the phone. So I reinitiated contact with him on the pretext of something random that I sent him 2 weeks later based on what I saw on the news. This got us talking again which was nice. Nothing more romantic however.
I don't think he can be arsed, and I don't think I would be either with the unmatching and silence and then coming back as if nothing happened. It's not really going to be a goer for you, is it, at long distance, he's clearly put off by it. I'm not sure why you're trying to pursue it. It's like you're putting obstacles in your own way.
Please have a bit more self respect. Thanks everyone so far. I can see how it might be more feasible for me to be the one to suggest meeting up this time. At the same time, given that we have neither met nor spoken on the phone, perhaps that can change. I know that it makes more sense to divert my attention to more local folk.
