Recover from the blow of their decision. Recover from the voids in your time and space that used to include another person. Following these guidelines will turn this break up into a break through!
This post is not intended to cover all the bases for those situations, and you would benefit more from direct and diverse professional help alongside these guidelines.
You thought this person would be your happy ending, but really they were part of a character-building chapter. It can be hard to see beyond your blurry, tear-filled eyes, and seemingly endless supply of mucus coming out of your nose — but this is just a moment. Each relationship is a valuable learning opportunity to learn more about yourself, and what you want and need in a partner. The journey towards your ideal relationship involves side roads and pit stops along the way that are part of your journey, but not necessarily your final destination; even though you hoped it would be.
Being dumped does not mean that you are bad, or not good enough. Each experience you have with a new person develops your pallet, and makes it easier for you to know what to look for in your next partner. This applies to both of you — the dumper and the dumpee. Yes, there will be heartache, wishing things could have been different, intense anger and sadness, etc.. There were positive parts of the relationship were real and valuable, and more likely than not, the breakup was not an elaborate, malicious scheme to cause harm to you.
No one gets into a relationship expecting to break up. It probably took a lot for this person to be honest with you about things not working. It usually takes more than one thing going wrong that leads toward a break up, so it is mutually beneficial for both of you to see the full picture of the relationship, and move on to better-fitting partners sooner, rather than later. The problems that led to this break up have probably been around for a while, and ideally, have been talked about and efforts have been made to improve them.
