During this time, I begged to come home and was denied. After about a month, I discovered that he had flown out of state, rented a hotel room and rental car for three days so he could meet a year-old girl he met on Instagram! Last winter, I stumbled upon a letter he had written to a year-old heroin addict who was, at that time, in prison for a drug possession charge she caught right after they met. They were having an intense emotional affair.
We were working past that and in therapy. Things started getting better until I stumbled upon an email confirmation of a review he had posted about an escort he had been with. He confessed to having paid contact with 10 different escorts over the past year. I was going to school and working to try and better our financial problems!
Our kids have been staying with their grandparents to spare them this drama, but they obviously know that things are not good. Please help! Since then, the drama has been near-constant. And can I just mention that a guy who posts an online review of a paid escort is a guy who is begging to get caught?
I could lecture you about putting your children first, and I hope you are capable of that. For now, the kids have been put out of the home so that their parents can continue to play out their relationship drama. I have to assume that their lives are more stable with their grandparents, but you must imagine the longer-term impact on them. Your behavior now is literally scripting their future. You say you two are in therapy, but it is hard to imagine that a competent therapist would counsel you to stay together.
My advice is for you to get tested for STDs and undertake the process of dissolving your marriage. She proceeded to tell me that when I answer questions from readers regarding depression, in her opinion, I tend to offer compassionate and correct counsel. And then she proceeded with the bone-picking. Mental illness is often linked to other medical problems. A physician can help with the initial diagnosis and develop a care plan. You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy amydickinson.
