Dating in Paris can be a challenging experience, but also incredibly fun. The French love to flirt and if you play your cards right, you can meet someone pretty much anywhere: the boulangerie , a party, a park, and, in this case, a bar. Get yourself a pint or pour another glass of wine, here is the first in a new series with tips for men and women to survive and succeed at the Paris dating scene. Note, this is guide is less for clubs as, well, after a certain early morning hour, pick-ups happen more readily than meeting a someone with dating potential.
At the bottom are general tips and a list of flirting-friendly bars. What do you do then? You have to succeed at the jeu de la seduction first. Look her direction occasionally, she will notice and chose or not to meet your gaze. Look away and then wait a few minutes and try to catch her eyes again. At this, women might want to give a smile, it should only be small. Hopefully she will then return your smile. If she turns away quickly without smiling that probably means you should give up. She could be playing a bit coy, she may even teasingly ignore you for a little while, which gives you time to plan your next move.
It might take a little time, so be patient. If possible, make yourself readily accessible and if possible get a little closer to where she is. La fille should slip to the bathroom or offer to go for the next round of drinks. Well, more than just one line. Like the staring mentioned above, giving too many odes of amour right off the bat can seem really superficial or too keen. For foreign guys, the French are generally more gallant, so follow suit if you want to score une francaise.
If you were looking for a little action, buy her another drink and another. But if you would like to see her again for real, keep the conversation going as long as it seems natural. All good excuses to exchange numbers, if you need one. French men are often not overly shy to just go ahead and suggest meeting up for un verre. Bad idea. Make her pine over you a little. He started chatting with me and asked for my number rather quickly as he was on his way out.
Eventually he did send me a message⦠two months later. An sms which remained unanswered. Women like surprises. These little thoughts count for a lot. Then⦠once you have meet someone, keep them interested in you by taking them to one of these most original bars in Paris! Lily Heise is a Paris-based writer, originally hailing from Canada. She has lived in Paris since and contributes to international and local publications.
