In her latest blog, the actress writes about her experiences attempting to date as a single mom. Thanks for welcoming Garcelle Beauvais! She can be found on Twitter GarcelleB. I was so touched by the wonderful feedback that many of you gave me on my last blog. So be true to your heart โ because no one knows your situation the way you do. After becoming single again, I thought I should try to get back into the dating game.
There were several reasons. After splitting from my ex, I went on a lunch date. I found it odd that this man just talked about himself. Clearly, he had Googled my name. It was weird. On another date, I had dinner with a nice enough man. But the next thing I knew, he called me and asked for my passport number so he could send a driver and surprise me with an international trip.
Who does that?! I was blown away. We only went to one dinner! He was persistent, too! Friends can set me up or I can meet people at events, but cyberspace mingling is out of the question.
Some of my friends suggested that I go out with younger men โ you know, give the whole cougar thing a try. Then I went out with someone way more famous than me. The press treated it like we were practically registering for china! And that is definitely not sexy. So about a year ago, I decided to take myself off of the market, at least for the time being. Once I made this choice, I felt an immense sense of relief. I felt no pressure to fill the void of a romantic relationship with somebody new.
I just wanted to work on myself and be the best mom I could be. By taking that anxiety out of my life, it helped me feel completely relaxed, which has gotten me to a place of being open to meeting someone. But I do have some rules. That goes in the plus column of being a single or divorced parent. My sons are my world. They come first. As a parent, I think you need time to reflect.
