Dear Amy: I am About three months ago, I matched with someone on a dating app. This person listed their age as We really hit it off. We would chat for hours every day. I brought up the fact of our age difference.
Although they were far away, we decided to meet. I decided to make a trip of it and stayed for a few days. We spent the whole time together and had a wonderful time. Our connection grew deeper, and we continued to chat every day for hours. We have the same sense of humor, philosophical and spiritual beliefs, political views, and ideas about what we want in a relationship and in life.
During our chats I never really noticed the age gap. Well, my match recently revealed to me that they lied about their age. This person is not 24, but 20 years old. My match has accepted responsibility, apologized, and accepted any possible consequences. I was able to forgive, and I can easily move on. My main qualm now is the very real social stigma associated with the year age gap, especially with this person being so young.
My heart tells me to just continue. I really care about this person, and my feelings are reciprocated. This is not some fling for either of us. But I worry about what my family and friends will think of me. Your thoughts? Inflating your age by a full quarter of your total lifespan is exactly the sort of choice year-olds make, but I give this person credit for coming clean about this.
He has been in a long-term plus years relationship with a brilliant woman whom I have trusted heart and soul with my children for over 10 years. She and I are truly close friends. Everyone in my life is aware that I have stage-3 blood cancer. He is clever, witty, humble — and a great friend and father. Dear Trying: Asking your ex and close friend to deliver your eulogy sounds like a wise choice on your part. I assume he would be honored to do so.
